Marriage in Adult Relationship

Okay, last time we talked about your other half from a documentation. Now, we will talk about the marriage. Why not when dating? Because if in dating, all of the dating couples, they’re still lovey dovey like there are the only 'sweet couple' in the world. But it’s different if they already get married.

In marriage, there are some problem that we have to face. It’s not a happy ever after story like in fairy tale, but more like it’s the start of our family, our own family like no other family. However, is it really make us happy??

In these days, there are so many kinds of marriage. Even it’s only heterosexual, or gay, or lesbian, or those who is different in religion, and more. When we married, it looks like we know each other, but actually it’s not like that. Somehow, we don’t know almost everything about our partner. Do you know what happened when someone get divorce? Some of it because of something simple like I said before. But then, some of us can manage to set aside our differences and can live together until we’re all old. I saw a couple who do that when I went to Europe. It’s really sweet when I saw them and I also want to be like that with my future husband. When we saw those who can be together until old, are they having a “Happily ever after” time??

Try to ask them, are they happily ever after? They certainly can tell that they don’t have the “happily ever after” time. But then, how they can become together all the time like the one from that photo? It’s only how they can accept each other, how they can love each other no matter what is happening in their marriage. The way they can be together is, when they’re dating, they know each other’s weakness and logically accept their weakness.

Okay, that one is about marriage, maybe for this one, I will go out from track, but still in the adult relationship. It’s about cohabitation. Maybe there are those who want to test it out before getting married. They want to know what is the life with each other but with no marriage relationship. Most of what they do is, having sex. But it’s something usual for those in the West, but not really like that in the East.

Why is cohabitation important for some people? Maybe they want to get married, but for some, it’s only for having sex together. In cohabitation, even they do it like those who get married, still they have something missing from marriage. What are they missing? Let’s think about this, what will happen when they have children? Some of them maybe got an abortion, some of them are forced to get married, they don't get a really happy life when children get into their life. Cohabitation only want to have sex, while married couple want to create a new family.

If you want to be married, better prepared yourself to make the family and face what you will face in the marriage life.

Have you found your other half?

Just how we rate someone that we love? How we can fall in love with someone else? Actually there's a secret behind the process 'look and fall in love'. After watch documentation movie titled "Science of Sex Appeal" and strive to taking note inside the dark Audio Visual room, there's so many answer the question of, "What is the process of someone look and than attracted with each other and fall in love?"

The man's masculinity face shows that man having a healthy testosterone hormone or poor testosterone hormone. Dubrine having research about human face and then cut the photos of his subjects into parts like eyes, noses, and ears and then pile it up become symmetric. The purpose of this research its to see if respondent choose the face with symmetric or not symmetric. The result is most individuals chose the subject with symmetric face. 

Someone maybe attractive because of their genes so it can make us attracted to them. We attracted to someone maybe because of physical health and genetics from the person we like.

What is your opinion about someone else appearance? In that documentation, it is said that hip and waist that same like golden ratio (shape like an hourglass) often shows fertility and health of somebody. Someone's way of walking also shows the level of fertility and with short lifetime.

voice also one of the tool to become an interaction connection between individuals. That's why at night, where only sounds that can be heard within couples, usually make sexual relationship more often. Man's voice heard deeper, be more liken by anyone. While women voice higher will be more liken by anyone.

Women also look prettier, more attractive, and the light of her face when they're in their ovulation. Ovulation time makes women voice different which make the voice become higher that before ovulation. At the peak of ovulation, men's smell become not really disturb women. Copulin is a major women pheromone which only in women. Copulin itself is a secret weapon that women produce while ovulating. Women also can be not loyal to their partner when they're having ovulation and there's men who have opportunity and character that complete and more possibility to give birth.

There's aroma of hate and not interest of scent to avoid the incest. The deepest nature secret to avoid incest.

According to Kenrick, all of the 'effort' is used for hunting the best gene to continuing individual generation (searching for the best partner) but if we always seeking for the best gene, it will be hard to look for a partner. Sexual appeal becoming an important point in searching for partner. Like car, more expensive the car, you look more handsome. In here, the first sight about the partner appearance often become a bridge to like someone.

The game 'Finding your Partner' which naturally we do with attract the opposite sex to approach us is called as flirting.

In the end, brain is the first and the last who hold the role in choosing your partner, keeping relationship with your partner, and making the 'nest' later on. Our unconscious mind decide sex appeal from our partner. Love is effort. Match with each other not just sexual relationship like kissing, hugging, or touching hand, but more like effort for being altogether forever. So, have you found the one in your life? If you already have, have you make effort in your relationship?

Have you ever watched movie titled 'Cinta Brontosaurus'? In the documentation movie 'Science of Sexual Appeal' and Cinta Brontosaurus movie, I found some similarity that love not have to leave the partner before one of them has gone. Love maybe can be expired but there's still many ways to 'do something' so it will not be expired.

I love you.. Like I never ever love no one before you - M2M ♥

Orientation Sexual is Your Choice

Continuing the last post, about sexual orientation, there's some categories which is Heterosexual, Homosexual, and Bisexual.

Heterosexual likes a person from another sex.

Homosexual likes a person who have the same sex with them.

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Bisexual likes to both of the sex.

If in the past post I write about homosexual, this time I want to discuss about bisexual. Why? Because when I listen about the Sexual Orientation group, I remembered about my friend who confess herself as a Bi. I know her from the social network and after a while, I don't know why my friend brave enough to tell me about how her relationship and her conversation with her same sex partner and opposite sex partner.

At first I feel uncomfortable to be friend with her, but after a while, I feel that I don't have the power to make her avoid her sexual orientation. But, honestly, I'm shocked, want to avoid the message that she sent me, even until today I still having friendship with her (since friendster-facebook until twitter). Why I don't end our friendship with her? I will quote Mam Henny's words in class, "I appreciate the exintence from a person, even they're homosexual or bisexual. But as a human being."

There's reason and causes why people become homosexual or bisexual. The difference of the sexual orientation maybe because of the genetics, hormone, order of birth, or physics. So from now on, try to not look with only one eye or look down people with different sexual orientation with You

It doesn't matter what color, sex, religion, age, sexual orientation, etc., everyone should have the same freedoms and liberties-Lance Bass.

Gay marriage is two people loving each other is beautiful no matter what their gender or sexual orientation and should be celebrated-Unknown quotes.

Sexual Orientation

Which one better: Heterosexual, Homosexual, or Bisexual??

Human, in biologicaly, is supposed to be a heterosexual who likes another person from another sex. Like male fall in love  to women and vice versa. However, there are some of us who don't like the opposite sex. We called it homosexual.

Homosexual is divided into gay and lesbian. Which is gay is like with same men and lesbian with the same women. Now, some of the country already accept the marriage between the homosexuals. Some of us think that as a really nasty thing, but now we need to accept them as a whole. Why? Well, they're also human right, so we need to accept them as they already choose it. Even in psychology, we need to accept everyone as our client no matter if they were homosexual or heterosexual.

For homosexual, they often become homosexual because of some traumatic event. What kind of traumatic event? It's because one of their relatives maybe have sexual abused to them and their relatives is the same sex. Usually their uncle who do it to their nephew. For women, they become lesbian because they're hate men and want to be with women because women care about them.

A couple of lesbian get married in Tokyo Disney Resort. This couple wear the same white dress like a fairy tale even there is a term that one of them have to wear a men suit.

"My beloved Hiroko and I wear that wedding dress and having a mini parade in Disney Sea, which is also a place that I like," said Koyuki Higashi, 28, on Twitter. 

"I'm very happy!" she said.

Now, about the bisexuals, they like men also women. So for them, every sexual relationship is fine. The reason for them doing this is actually simple, they don't satisfied for they're sexual life. So for having more thrilled in their sexual life, they try to add another seasoning for their sexual life. Or it can be because of they're actually homosexual, but want to have kids, so they got married with another sex and having kids.

Okay, that sum up about the heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual. But maybe you ask, "What about the person who is love to the same sex, not because of traumatize event from their past, but because they like the same sex from born?". Now you said about genetically they're already homosexual. Can it be like that?

For men, they can be more like women because of their hormones. You know about testosterone and progesterone? Well, testosterone is hormone to become more masculine, while progesterone is hormone to become more feminine. Everyone have these hormones and it depends what will develop more. So if a man have more progesterone that testosterone, they become more feminine, while women who have more testosterone will become more masculine.

Can these hormone make them become gay or lesbian? No. At first when men more feminine, maybe their parents incidentally make them become more and more feminine. And until some point, they become a gay and not heterosexual.

But then, which one is better? Well, we are made for being men and women who complete each other. So we need to take care of each other. And that means we are not made as a homosexual. But what about bisexual? Bisexual still with women. Is it so? Bisexual can be because of they're actually homosexual, but want to have a child so they married with another sex. So we need to see through the background and look at what is wrong with them

Whatever they are, whoever they are, they're still human and we need to respect and care with them as a human being not another creature. Even sometimes those who is heterosexual is don't have any norm as a human rather than homosexual.

We're human, we still need each other. No matter what they are, we have to talk with them as a human.

Source:
AFP. (March 6, 2013). Pernikahan sesama jenis di Tokyo Disneyland.